thirty, flirty, and thriving

I turned THIRTY. I clearly remember when I was in my early twenties thinking thirty seemed legit- like everyone who was thirty had their crap together. If your twenties are for figuring it all out, your thirties are for having it all together. 
Well, I'm here to tell you I have it a little more figured out, but I've decided it's still mostly just a fake-it-till-you-make-it kind of situation. But I'm happy to be thirty! I have a mortgage, three kids, and a minivan- I'm basically living the dream. ;-) 

To celebrate, I went on a girls' weekend with some of my favorite ladies to The Grand America in Salt Lake. I already want to go back! Such a fun and fancy hotel.
 We started off with pedicures and dinner at Carmine's. They import 80% of their ingredients from Italy and house make nearly everything - and you can tell!
Jenn also spoiled us with one of her homemade cheesecakes- a 6 layer s'mores cheesecake to be exact- she is the master! Better than anything I've had from Cheesecake Factory, that's for sure. We decided we needed to eat our leftover for breakfast in bed the next morning, naturally.
Continuing our food crawl, for brunch we went to Sweetlake Limeade for some of the best biscuits around! I'd say this place and Eva's Bakery ties for best breakfast in Salt Lake.
We topped off the weekend with some shopping and a movie. I don't think it gets any better than this weekend! Love these girls and I think my 30's may just be the best decade yet!


donut grow up, charlotte!

I say this every time my kids have a birthday, but it's true- I blinked and a year went by! Every year seems to go a little faster. It feels like Charlotte has always been part of our family, even though she's just been here for a year, I can't remember life before her! (Did I sleep more then? Probably not...)

Charlotte has been a pretty easy-going kid (probably thanks to birth order)! She still wakes up once a night to eat, loves to read books, likes to try whatever food she sees you eating, and gets into everything. She says: Mama, Dada, Nana, Papa, no, more, all done, poo, night-night, bye, hi, hello, eat, ball, yay, uh-oh, oh no, and book. She just took her first few steps a couple of days ago, but hasn't wanted to practice really since then (though she pushes her walker like a boss!).

Jillian likes to tote her all over the house and can get some of the best belly laughs from her! Anytime the doorbell rings she crawls as fast as she can to the door, because she knows it's most likely Jillian coming home! She's like her second mom. 

 She loved everyone singing happy birthday to her and just beamed the whole time. She wasn't quite sure what to do with her cake, but after a couple of tastes she got the right idea! Anytime she wants to eat something (especially something she sees you eating), she will start "mmmm-ing" very emphatically (sometimes even angry!). Don't get between this girl and her food! She still only has two bottom teeth but that doesn't stop her from doing pretty well with table food!
 We love you SWEET girl! 


Party Sources:

Letter balloons: Amazon
Tissue paper tassels: Amazon
Donuts: Beyond Glazed in Murray
Donut pinata: Target
Sweet One banner: Etsy
Plates, napkins, donut cups, table cloth: Etsy
Printable paper donuts: Etsy
Sprinkle paper lanterns: Amazon 
 Cake topper: Amazon
Printables: Etsy


biscoff white chocolate chip cookies

Five words that belong together, if ya ask me. A local cookie delivery place featured this cookie as a monthly flavor and I knew I had to recreate it! (Spoiler alert: I think it came out just a bit better- though I'm biased!)
I used my favorite chocolate chip cookie recipe as a guide, and just tweaked and added as I went to incorporate the flavors that I wanted, which included crushed Biscoff cookies in the dough as well as a generous scoop of the cookie butter whipped in with the butter- and of course a melty pile of hiding in the middle when you bite into it! 

The key to good cookies, with any recipe really, is in getting the texture of the dough right! You want it to stick together without being crumbly, but not so sticky that it sticks onto your fingers- almost like Play-Doh. If it's too dry they won't spread enough, if it's too moist then they'll spread too much and be flat. To me the perfect cookie is somewhere in the middle- puffy, soft in the middle with a slight crisp around the edges. 

Biscoff White Chocolate Chip Cookies
 Yield: 25 large stuffed cookies

2 sticks of butter, at room temperature 
3/4c brown sugar
3/4c white sugar
2 eggs
2t vanilla extract
3c flour
2t baking soda
1t salt
15 Biscoff cookies, crushed
1c Biscoff cookie butter, divided
2c white chocolate chips

1. Preheat oven to 350. 

2. In a stand mixer, beat the two sticks of softened butter with the sugars until light and fluffy (a couple of minutes). Add 1/2c of cookie butter and beat until smooth. Add two eggs and vanilla extract and mix until incorporated.

3. In a separate bowl, combine the flour, baking soda, salt, and crushed Biscoff cookies (I crushed mine by putting them in a Ziploc bag and using a rolling pin over it).

4. Add the dry ingredients to the mixer with wet ingredients and combine. Check your dough consistency- if it seems to crumbly, mix in another 1-2tbs of butter. Add in the white chocolate chips.

5. Take a rounded tablespoon full of dough in your hand and flatten it into a small disc. Spoon about 1t of cookie butter into the middle. Shape another tablespoon full of dough into a disc and place on top of the first one, closing the edges to seal in the cookie butter, then roll into a ball.

6. Bake on a cookie sheet lined with parchment paper for 11-12 minutes, until the edges just start to crinkle. Remove from the oven and let cool on the sheet for another few minutes (they solidify and finish cooking during this time). I use two sheets so when one is cooling, I can pop the next one in ready to go!

Best devoured warm when the Biscoff in the center is still melty! 

*It did take some extra time to stuff them, so for a couple of batches I just used a cookie scoop and baked them as a normal cookie, then drizzled the top with melted cookie butter to save some time! Those turned out delicious as well, and if you're wanting to get more cookies out of this recipe then that's the way to go!


trip to fl

Vacations always go by too fast...especially trips to Florida! I put together a little video of some highlights, but also took a million pictures too so I had to have them all in one spot (I completely forgot to pack my camera though so we had to make our phone cameras work!).


We started and ended our trip in Orlando. The day after we flew in, I attended a POP Pilates certification- something I've been wanting to do for a while but wasn't able to attend the one in Salt Lake a few months back! So I figured the Orlando training was the next best thing, plus we're always up for a trip back home. 

After that we headed for a few days in my favorite city in Florida- St. Augustine. From the moment we stepped off the plane Olivia asked me nearly every hour when we were going to the beach, so once we finally got there a few days later she was elated!

I was also pretty happy because Charlotte didn't show much of an interest in eating the sand like I thought she would- hallelujah! (And she definitely did not keep her hat on- pretty much just long enough for me to take a picture of it).
Crescent beach in the morning hours was just gorgeous. It was low tide, so the shore line stretched on forever and gave Charlotte plenty of room to crawl in the shallow water. It also wasn't crowded in the least- for a while we were the only ones in our little spot of what felt like heaven!
  We also had a beach day with my parents and cousins- throwing the Frisbee, playing in the sand, and ended it with Publix fried chicken (which no trip to the beach is complete without if you ask me).

Olivia and my Dad's birthday are one day apart at the end of April, so of course we celebrated! Not that I ever need an excuse to bake, but birthdays are an especially good reason. My Dad wanted something super chocolate-y and Olivia didn't care as long as it was pink with sprinkles (naturally).
 After our time at the beach and exploring some of St. Augustine (read: eating our way through St. Augustine), we headed back to Orlando and stayed at SUCH a cool hotel- the Holiday Inn Resort Orlando Suites water park. If you have kids I definitely recommend it! It had such a fun pool and water park along with a 4D movie theater and arcade- the girls loved it! Well, everything except the 4D movie. Once the seats started rumbling and water squirting they were both hysterically crying and we left after 5 minutes. :-D
Since we didn't fly out until evening time, our last morning there we did breakfast with Minnie and the gang at Disney's Beach Club Resort- another thing I'd totally recommend! The breakfast buffet was delicious and all of the characters come by your table to say hello. Charlotte (as you can see) wasn't sure what to think of them all.
  We actually thought Jillian would be too shy to say hello and Olivia would love them (from all of our life experiences together)- but as soon as we got there and Olivia saw them in person, they completely flipped- Olivia clammed up and wanted nothing to do with them and Jillian ran right up to them and gave them hugs! James and I were both shocked. 
It was another one for the books, that's for sure! We packed SO much into the week we were there- three different cities and a lot of activities, but ton of memories! Utah may be home right now, but Florida will always have my heart!


raising kids to have a healthy relationship with food

This topic has been on my mind for a loooooong time--I dunno, 3-5 years give or take. Since I realized my kids were going to turn out just like me if something didn't change. It comes from a place of struggling with trying to create a positive relationship with food after a solid 10 years of a very unhealthy relationship with food- from an eating disorder in high school, to binging in college, to constantly feeling guilty about eating things that were 'bad for me' and trying to cope with the realities of a post-partum body. I can only speak from my own experiences, but since it's taken a lot of time and a lot of mental energy to get to a place where I feel like I can finally say that- that food and I are on good terms- there is no guilt or shame in eating the cookie or the white bread over the wheat when I want it- I wanted to share some thoughts on the subject, since unfortunately this something we, as women, all struggle with way more often than I think we realize. Matter of fact, anytime something about that part of my past comes up in a conversation with a girlfriend, it almost inevitably ends up in "Oh my gosh, me too." Why is it so rampant? I'm tired of it. The trend has got to change. Thinking one of my daughters will have the same thoughts I did (constantly) about myself growing up is soul-crushing to me. So how do we change the dialogue? How do we help our kids from a very young age develop a healthy relationship with food? There are plenty of things out of our immediate control (helloooo media), but I have a few ideas that will make a big impact as early as tomorrow:

1. No food is "good" or "bad"

Have you ever had this conversation? 
"Mom can have another cookie?"
"How many have you had?"
"Then no, too many cookies are bad for you.
Or similarly, "too much candy is bad for you.

Conversely, "Eat your broccoli! It's good for you!"

While our intentions with these statements are usually just fine (we want our kids to get the vitamins and nutrients they need to grow healthy and strong), here's why it matters:

Think about food in your adult life. Have you ever found yourself thinking, "I shouldn't eat this ice cream...it's so bad for me!" And then you eat it, and then you feel a little guilty about it or regret it completely. Why? Because you labeled that food as bad- you attached an emotion to it. When we say certain foods are good while others are bad, we attach positive feelings to healthy foods and negative feelings to unhealthier foods. We essentially shame ourselves for eating foods less nutritionally dense because we've labeled it as "bad". Your brain then makes the very small step to think, "I ate that, I'm bad." Or, in the very least, "I'm feeling bad about myself."

2. Don't verbalize negative feelings about consuming food--ever 
Maybe you haven't had that internal battle with yourself (I'd be surprised if at any point in your life you can honestly say you haven't), but try a little experiment and you'll be shocked when you start noticing...
Ever offer a girlfriend a treat and hear "Ohhh I shouldn't!"? Or maybe you're with a group of friends at dinner and you hear "I shouldn't have eaten that cheesecake!" or "We'll work it off tomorrow!" or "I've been so bad this week!" Seriously- next time you're with girls around food just listen. I can tell you at least 4 separate times I've heard something to that effect this week. It's disturbing how much emotion/guilt/shame we attach to eating food. 

Since when did food become a moral issue? Regardless of how you felt eating that brownie sundae, the minute someone announces they regret it you start to wonder if you should be doing the same. 

Your kids learn everything from you (or until they're about 13 and become more influenced by peers than parents), but for a solid 12-13 years YOU will shape their views- on everything- including how to feel about food. Do you make those kinds of statements when your kids are within earshot? Maybe you're at the mall and they're begging you for an ice cream (or an almond pretzel with caramel dip *insert heart eyed emoji*) and you say, "No! I'm trying to be good!" Or you do get the treat and as you're all sitting there eating, you turn to your husband and say "Well I was being good today," then roll your eyes.
Labeled. And your kids watched you do it.
Mom thinks it's bad. Should I? 
Younger kids don't have the meta-cognitive skills to make that connection yet, but hearing those phrases over time? You betcha. 

Check these out: 
Mothers who talk more frequently about their own weight, shape, or size are more likely to have daughters with lower self-worth and greater feelings of depression. Conversations focused on healthful eating are protective against disordered eating behaviors.

Mothers who make more frequent comments about weight are more likely to have daughters who use extreme weight control behaviors (such as using diet pills, self-induced vomiting, using laxatives and/or diuretics) and binge eat.
(from this article. This one is also good-- and these are just two- there are LOTS. Google it.). 

And now you may be thinking greeeaaat one more thing I can add to my laundry list of Mom-guilt! Don't. Pick one thing to change this week about how you're talking about food first- notice what you are saying about food. Can you catch yourself saying any of those phrases from above? Take a mental note when you do. You can't change what you're doing unless you know when you're doing it.

So what DO we say about food to our kids? What DO we verbalize about our own feelings about food when they're around? How do we teach them to have a healthy, satisfying relationship with food where they don't constantly criticize themselves--especially if we ourselves are struggling?

1. Food is fuel

Okay, so we as adults we all know what we're trying to say when we tell them "eating that much candy is bad for you"- we're saying it's a lot of sugar- and eating sugar in abundance has adverse effects on your health and can give you a stomach ache/headache/energy crash. But that's not kid-language. We want to teach them why nutrient dense foods like fruits and vegetables will help their bodies be able to grow taller and stronger, be able to run faster, learn better at school, and even see better. Foods we would consider to be treats we can still have and enjoy- even every day if we want- but we don't eat as much of them, because eating too many treats can lead to tummy aches- and tummy aches are uncomfortable! And that really applies across the board- not just treats (I'll get to that). We keep it as simple as that. Some foods help you grow and some foods are fun 'sometimes' snacks.

2. Keep it to yourself 

Even if you yourself are dieting, trying to lose weight, doing some type of cleanse or extreme diet- your kids shouldn't constantly be hearing about it. Even if you're losing weight in a healthy, responsible manner. Will they see you doing it? Sure, they watch your every move (even in the bathroom, amiright?). This doesn't mean you can't ever talk about it- all of this is about how you talk about it. It's one thing to say "I'm eating ___ for breakfast because it will help me get all the energy I need today" versus "I have to drink this shake because Mommy's trying to lose 5lbs!"
I exercise daily. I have a separate instagram account for sharing healthy recipes- my kids know. It's not a secret. I can only remember Jillian asking me once, "Mom, why are you going to the gym?" And I told her it makes me feel strong and happy. Saying something like "Well, I can't fit into my pants yet since I had your sister." Or, "Remember when I ate half the cake at your birthday party last night?" You never want them to draw the conclusion that exercise is a punishment for something you ate, not a reward for what your body is able to do.

If you are living a healthy lifestyle, this isn't to say you shouldn't draw attention to it- let's not confuse the two. We want our kids to learn from our healthy habits. For example, I try not to hide or sneak veggies into my kids food without them knowing just for the sake of them getting in some veggies- I want them to know they're eating a vegetable and actually enjoying it. I'll do this if I try a new recipe especially- "Did you know there are carrots in here? I didn't know carrots could have that flavor, did you? Carrots actually help your eyes to see better!" I think I actually used that exact wording once. Instead of--"Carrots are good for you- try it."

Semantics? Yep. But for good reason. Keep reading.

3. (Still focusing on you)- get the world SHOULD out of your vocabulary

I should really go to the gym this morning. (...but I can't)
I shouldn't be eating this big of a piece of cake (...but I did)
I should have picked the broccoli instead of the donut (...but I didn't)
I should lose 5lbs before our cruise this summer (...but it will be hard)

Over years and years of humans using this word- it now has a lot of really crappy baggage- guilt, shame. All of the phrases above make you feel guilty about what you either are or aren't doing. You're reinforcing all of the negative! Using the word "should" actually decreases your effectiveness. Instead, try focusing on the benefits of why you want to do that particular thing (or don't). 
I should really go to the gym this morning.
When I go to the gym, I feel great! 
I should have picked the scrambled eggs instead of the donut.
I will have more energy in a few hours if I eat eggs now and save eating a donut for another time.
(Even if 'another time' is a few hours from now).
If you're offered a treat and don't want it for whatever reason- don't say "No, I shouldn't..." For one thing, you are allowed to just say "No thanks." Or if you feel that may be rude just ask for a baggie to take it to go. 
I love this article on the word should and what to say/think instead.

How does this relate to modeling a healthy relationship with food? Everything! I shouldn't be eating that...You should eat your vegetables- all the things we say about food. We want our kids to think in terms of what they can do- what gets them closer to their goals, whatever those may be, instead of their first reaction implying something they're already not doing because they should be doing something else. Chances are, if we're doing it, they're doing it too. 

4. Teach your kids to listen to their bodies

 Let them dictate their portion sizes. I think the notion of "you're not leaving the table until you've cleaned your plate" is a little generational- I don't hear of that happening as much with parents around my age. But that mentality is teaching kids not to rely on their own body cues to tell them when they're done eating, they're relying on an external force. Kids are actually way better at knowing when they're full than we as adults are (when this actually switches, I don't know, but I'd love to find out so we can all fix it :-P) In our house we don't make them eat everything, but they do have to try everything. Daniel Tiger has a catchy little song "You gotta try new food cause it might taste good!" (I love Daniel Tiger and his cheesy but totally completely applicable life songs. If there's a show you shouldn't ever be annoyed with your toddlers watching, it's Daniel Tiger.)

Just a week or two ago, we got Panda Express for dinner on the way home from a busy day of errands. Jillian loves their orange chicken, so she ate quite a bit. After about 20 minutes, she was complaining about her tummy feeling "too stretched" and it felt like it was "up to her throat" (we all know that feeling, right? haha!). We had a quick and simple conversation about listening when her tummy was trying to tell her it was full, and even though it was really tasty, if we listen when our tummy is full then we won't get a tummy ache. And we can save the leftovers and eat them tomorrow instead. (Not once ever saying "Well, you shouldn't have eaten that much, huh?")

5. Take "No" for an answer

I did say we do have our kids try everything on their plate, but does that mean they have to like it? No. If they don't like it, I don't make them eat it. (As an adult how mad would that make you if you were forced to down something you genuinely didn't like?) Does that mean if they don't like it, it's the last time I'll serve it to them? Not a chance. Our taste buds change over time. Sometimes kids prefer a food cooked one way over the other. My kids hate cooked broccoli, but raw broccoli? They literally eat by the head. The prefer carrots cut into "crinkle chips" over baby carrots and eat three times as many that way. Letting them have a little more control about what they decide they like and they don't like helps them listen to those body cues. Studies show that kids need 5-10 exposures to a food before they actually even know if they like it or not. (You know like when your 6 month old gags on bananas the first time but then it turns into their favorite food?) They also just may need it served a little differently from how your adult meal is plated (my kids prefer things 'deconstructed' over mixed- like casseroles and salads). Experiment with the way you serve things, let them help in food preparations- these are all precursors in establishing healthy habits.

6. Positive body-talk

Focus on what your body can DO over what it looks like- always, always, always. For you and your kids. Instead of noticing your daughter has slimmed down after joining swim team, say "Hey I noticed your lap time has increased! You've been so dedicated with practicing." Even with yourself, if you lost 5lbs, cool, but focus on what you can now DO because of it- maybe you can do 5 more push-ups than you could last week, or hold a plank for 10 more seconds. Maybe it's even a simple as running up the stairs without getting winded. If your daughter looks smokin' hot in her prom dress (first of all, probably don't buy that one ;-), but tell her how confident, and happy she looks. 

WHEW. That was long. I could keep going, but those are the main things on my mind! We teach our kids how to tie their shoes, why it's not polite to push a kid off a slide, why it's important to go the dentist- why wouldn't we teach them about how to have a healthy relationship with food? Because the opposite? The effects of an unhealthy relationship with food are far-reaching, emotionally scarring, and impact every facet of your life- if you've been there, you know. I want more for my kids. Is it fire-proof? Will they still grow up thinking they're too fat, not as pretty as the next girl, hating themselves for the Oreos they ate? Maybe. We can't control it all, as much as we want to. But we can help change the conversation- and Mamas- it's GOT to start with us.