tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4898094211187044963.post337892172746840750..comments2024-03-17T11:48:09.719-06:00Comments on two points for honesty: I'm a fence-sitterUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4898094211187044963.post-73298544557399788852011-11-01T19:55:44.826-06:002011-11-01T19:55:44.826-06:00Well said "teachergirl", especially the ...Well said "teachergirl", especially the part about Satan being invested in making mothers feel inadequate, uncertain, and frustrated. I had never thought of it that way before. But, it makes sense. <br /><br />I also liked the part about getting that feeling of peace, even if it is about some crazy idea. It's true. <br /><br />It is good to learn about different theories, parenting styles, etc. They are more tools to add to your "mommy belt". But don't feel obligated to choose and then stick with only one way. Remember to give yourself some credit. You've done great figuring things out so far! Her sleeping will come along too. <br /><br />Love you guys lots!Kimberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09434928890651971293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4898094211187044963.post-57725478550636664302011-11-01T08:40:05.188-06:002011-11-01T08:40:05.188-06:00i could have written this post a few months ago. p...i could have written this post a few months ago. paralysis of information--it's the plague of the modern mommy. my mom didn't have all these books--she just had my grandma. and my grandma had her mom and watching her younger brothers and sisters. so they just did what worked. and they didn't think too much about it.<br /><br />that may have been bad or good, but it didn't give them so much stress. <br /><br />i so wish i could take this part of the journey away from you, but i fundamentally believe that every mom has to go through it in order to find their own way. it's so hard. it's SO HARD. <br /><br />and people always want to tell you what to do. and they forget that their baby isn't your baby and their philosophies are not your philosophies and their sleeper in not your sleeper and so what they have to say might be helpful but might be worse than harmful (at least to your confidence) and so it's a vicious cycle.<br /><br />i can only tell you what i've learned, in the hopes that it might help: jillian will tell you what she needs. and you're probably like "yeah right. she doesn't tell me anything." she's in that really crazy phase where she's still a big bundle of reflexes and she's STARTING to be a person. it's a hard time, but she will tell you what she needs. she's a person with her own preferences. maybe she's a kid who needs to be rocked. maybe she's a kid who would prefer to fuss it out. maybe she's a kid who would like to do a combination. but she will tell you. when you're frustrated and you're praying for help and you get that peaceful feeling about a crazy idea--that's her and Heavenly Father telling you what to do.<br /><br />you'll do what's right for her. and if i've learned anything, it's that Satan is totally invested in keeping you from feeling that confidence in your instincts. you are her mommy. you know her better than anyone, even her daddy. <br /><br />she'll tell you.<br /><br />in the meantime, by whatever means possible. get the most sleep you can by whatever means possible. they're resilient, adaptable little creatures. they can adjust when you figure out what you want to do. <br /><br />hang in there. you're not doing anything that's not 100% normal and so so so stressful.teachergirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08031859408698577418noreply@blogger.com